A Valentine to Friendship
Several years back, I was excited for New Year’s Eve.
Then on Christmas I got an email from the guy I was seeing. Long distance was too hard. He was ending things.
I’d been dumped.
A month or so later I opened up Facebook. There on my feed was a big old picture of my ex with someone else. He was ENGAGED.
I was crushed.
Fast forward to a meeting with my editor, Holly, to talk about my next book Airports, Exes, and Other Things I’m Over (an idea that also stemmed from that breakup). My relationship—or the lack thereof—had been on my mind. I’d been thinking about it a lot. It had given me another idea. In that meeting I told Holly: I think I know my next book! It’s called Finding Mr. Better-Than-You.
The book isn’t about me—even though that was the launching point. It has changed a lot from the first draft (check out my first draft report blog post), but the heart of it remains the same.
The book is a Valentine to friendship. I don’t want to give away any spoilers, but while at first glance this book may seem like it’s about finding a boyfriend, it’s really about those people who stand by you through the good and the bad (and even all those harebrained ideas you may come up with).
One thing in my life that is consistent with the book is that I too have friends that I am grateful for and who are true blue.
As for my ex, I got over him, but I’m grateful for him too. Because of him I had two ideas that turned into books. I learned more about myself, what I want, need and deserve—and all of that helped me find love (romantic and otherwise).
I think this quote is fitting: “When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us. ”
I’m glad I looked forward. I hope we all can.